Shortly before going to bed Monday night, we received a text
message from one of our dearest friends, Jonathan Johnston. He reminded us that although we were shocked
and scared, nothing that had happened caught the Lord off-guard. We were trusting in His sovereignty and
control.
Tuesday morning arrived after a restless night’s sleep. Billy went to get Addie from her dorm room
and brought her to the common area of the guesthouse. I was so torn. I wanted to enjoy this time with her, and yet
I knew that it could very well be the last time I did spend with her. Our
flight was leaving that night.
Woudneh came to the guesthouse that morning and shared more
of Addie’s story. I again began
weeping. This time, these were tears of
gratitude. I had prayed for mercy over
my girl, and listening to Woudneh, I realized that the Lord had already poured
out His mercy upon her life. I cannot go
into details here because I feel that this is Addie’s story to tell some day,
but just know that we have seen vividly how His hand has been upon her life
from the beginning. We are so thankful
to have witnessed His faithfulness so clearly.
The birth mother had agreed to go to court that day, make
her statement, and give her consent.
Woudneh suggested that we go with her, and we more than willingly
obliged.
Addie is so stinkin’ cute that it’s hard to stay too
terribly sad around her long. We spent
the rest of that morning kissing her sweet cheeks, playing with her, feeding
her, rocking her to sleep, praying over her, and speaking words of truth about
our great God to her.
After lunch we headed back to the courthouse, praying that
her birthmom would indeed show up. When
we arrived we met not only her birthmom again, but also Addie’s biological
sister- an adorable, full of life three-year-old bundle of energy. How amazing to spend a few hours with them,
playing with this little girl! She loved the Skittles I gave her, playing
hide-and-seek, jumping on the stairs with Billy, playing with my hair, drawing
with my pens, and all the other things that all little girls enjoy. I think about this child daily and pray for
her protection.
After hours of waiting, the judge was finally ready to see
Addie’s birthmom. We sat eagerly waiting
in the same room as the previous day when we had first received the news. This was a huge step to have her before the
judge, but we knew there was still the matter of the birthfather.
What came next was one of the most bittersweet moments of my
life. Woudneh went in, spoke to the
judge, and reported to us the news: In
Ethiopia it is illegal to impregnate a girl under the age of 18, so the
birthfather is not legally recognized, and did not have to be found. (!) He was
also the father of Addie’s biological sister and had not provided anything for
that child, and therefore the judge said that it was a closed case as far as
she was concerned. Now all we needed was
final approval from the Ministry of Women’s Affairs, and it would be finalized. The judge sent her recommendation to them,
and Woudneh told us that they almost always go along with what the judge
says, but that it could be a week or two before we would know for sure. It looked like everything was
going to work out! Thank you,
Jesus!!!!
We were overwhelmed with gratitude, but completely burdened
for this mother, who was clearly torn apart by the events of the past two
days. She did tell Woudneh that she
wanted us to adopt her baby, and I will be forever grateful for that. I told her she had given me the most amazing gift imaginable, and that I would do everything I possibly could to love her child with everything that I had.
I will not even pretend to understand all the reasons why
the Lord allowed all of this drama or why Addie wasn’t just knit together in my
womb in the first place. I do know
through this He answered my prayer- my faith is strengthened. I have seen like never before my need for him
and the incredible grace that secures my life in His presence forever. Jesus, fully God, and fully man, lived a
perfect life, and then took on the punishment for my sin. He died a brutal,
cruel, humiliating death, and then, Hallelujah!, He rose again, and sits at the
right hand of the Father, pleading on my behalf. It by His blood that I can stand before the
Lord confident and sure that my eternity rests with Him- through His blood that
I am called HIS CHILD! It is my prayer that somehow Addie’s
birthmother will, through all of this, experience adoption herself- adoption as
a daughter of the King- that she will some day be in a place with no more
hunger and no more sickness, no more tears, sorrow, or pain.
Until that day, may we work daily to give orphans homes, to
provide ways for mothers to keep their babies, to feed the hungry, and clothe
the poor. May we never forget the muck and mire from which He rescued us, and may we toil endlessly to spread the good
news of Jesus to the lost. He is our
only hope!
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We returned back to the guesthouse an hour before we had to
head to the airport. We practically ran
to Addie’s dorm room. I stepped inside
and walked over to her bed, and the minute she saw me, her face spread into the
hugest toothless grin I’ve ever seen. I
must have kissed her face a thousand times.
We spent the next forty-five minutes calling our family on FaceTime so
that they could see our sweet girl face-to-face. How wonderful it was to share our good news
with them. There were no
guarantees that everything was going to work out, but we were so much more
hopeful at this point.
Addie is holding a picture of the family that Payton drew for her. Can't wait for our girls to be united! |
I told Addie as many times as I possibly could how much I loved her and that I would be back for her. Not knowing 100% for sure that I actually would be back, I prayed that what I was telling her was truth. We took her back to her room, kissed her one time, and tried our best not to completely fall apart as we loaded up the car to head to the airport.
It was so very difficult to walk away and leave our baby
girl, but we were full of gratitude that we were leaving full of hope that we
would indeed return. We were (and are) certain that He would watch over her and continue to keep her life in His hands.
"Praise be to the Lord,
for He has heard my cry for mercy.
The Lord is my strength and my shield;
my heart trusts in Him, and He helps me.
My heart leaps for joy,
and with my song I praise Him!"
Psalm 28:6-7
Aww, Jodi, my heart just hurts for you. Thanks for giving so much detail. This is the first time I've had to read through it all. I'm so excited for you & Billy. I think my favorite part from this day's blog is Payton's drawing-so sweet! You are a strong, brave woman, my friend. Hang in there! Addie will be home before you know it!
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